Baby Blues

 Do you ever hear about baby blues?

Many of us doesnt realize how important closest circle can heal baby blues syndrome. 

As a new mom, i never knew about baby blues. Although i dont feel mood swing or maybe feeling anxiety, i little bit understand what most caused baby blues and maybe post partum syndrome especially in our culture. 

As asian family, we know clearly how our parents never let us living alone and they will be around us until we have kids. Mostly indonesia newly weds living together with their parent with many reason. From homeless until responsibility to take care our parent in their olod age reason. And mostly (again) have little bit dispute with our parent. Maybe some dispute will be bigger when one side doesnt want to give in. Our parent thinking they live longger so they should have more knowledge. Their kids thinking they have more knowledge because they learn more with all technology and science. 

Baby blues needs support from closest relatives, means husband or family. But, It will be hard when mostly asian family still interve from many family decisions.  For the family who get interve from example their parent in law will make baby blues getting worst and maybe some cases will getting into postpartum sydrome. 

Indonesia, have a lot example cases such as baby diapers, breast milk, v section and sc section until vaccination. 

Let me tell you more about it, 

Baby diapers

In indonesia, baby diapers still made a debate between clody team or diapers team. 

Fyi, clody means washable baby diapers which using fabric and diapers mean disposable diapers. 

When many relatives from parents come home last months, they asked me "why i put on diapers to my baby" i already told them "because i have many guest today, i need to do many things and i cant watch her every second to change her clody" and one of them scold me and told me "Baby girls shouldnt use diapers everytime than boys, because it make them have bad foot shape"

and i dont know why, that night i cried a lot. Glad i have a supportive husband who calming me to avoid them. 

Breast milk 

Of course people know how good breast milk than formula. All asian old people know about that. But, how if mother cant give their baby breast milk because she cant not because she donot want to. 

I know some people cant give their babies breast milk because they just have a little breast milk and it is not enough for their babies. 

And much more...

And sometimes, if the newly mom listen much what peopl talk  and it always overwhelmed. It is tired and of course it much pressure on it. 

in my cases, i am very lucky to have a supportive husband who calming me down. If i dont have supportive husband, maybe i will be crazy mom... i will get postpartum sydrom because it is too much pressure from people around me.