Es teh and sugar consumtion

I just dont believe how quickly this year fly away. 💔

 So, whats the update today?

well, most recent trending topic today is someone got legal notice from one drink corporate because his tweet.

this drink called chizu red velvet. This man, tweet how sweet this drink and it make children got diabet sooner. 

I totally agree with this man. 

Actually, i had drink this twice, first when i got FOMO and the second is when i really need sugar after flood hardwork. When i drink this, i cannot consume all in 1 porsion. I used to shared with my husband and ofcourse a lot of drink after that. This drink, in my opinion, Its sweetest drink i ever taste in the world. It is sweet, thick and heavy. And i cant imagine what kind people who can drink this in one day in one portion. 

Because of this trending, I just realise how indonesia people can eat a lot of sugar in one day. And i pretty sure, all we are just cap the climax for sugar consumtions. 

I had searching how many stall selling drink like 'Es Teh Indonesia' in my neighborhood. I got less than 200 meters, we have 3 drink stall in our neighborhood. 

 My interest in this old lady was keenly impasioned. Not something romantic relationship but interest to her story, background or something simple like life lesson. Although always polite in returning my greetings, she never talk more about her more than ask where will i go. She is not rude, friendly enough but i dont have enough brave to ask her more. To all villagers, she did the same way she talk to me. Noone exactly knowing her. just some rumours spread all the time. Mostly is a good rumours. 

I was walking home one afternoon from the convenience store, I was going to buy milk and bread, when I heard a slight sound behind me dragging footsteps. Under the sunset, I saw her, walking alone. She stopped walking after reaching me and started a conversation. After some short conversation about my chili plant, was planted 3 weeks ago, she started some word feel mumbling. 

"This village was changed" 

"how?"

" I still remember what this look like when i first come here"

"What is look like?"

I answered her tried to avoid sound too excited. 

"what i need in that time. Calm and noone asked me more"

She continued 

"After i lost my husband and most of my family, i need new life. No more memories, far away from there"

"Whats happen?"

"Spanish flu, he is lovely husband, charming man. I was happy wife, waiting our first child and he just be appointed employee"

She took a deep breath and stop walk for a while. 

I showed interest for the part her deep breath. 

"I was broke and  broken"

"My child died before he was born. I gave him name Darmono"

"I was grieve longer"

 Some years ago, it was my habit to spend the long vacation in a quiet Magelang village, not far from Borobudur, the well known buddhist temple. I choose this spot for it deafening and peacefully. 

It that time, i just wonder how my life will be. 

Woman and sunflower

A woman walked into a garden, saw a nice sunflower, pick it by her beautiful finger and walked in again. Then she tried to woke up his man again. While she was waiting, she put some tea on cup and fill boiled water. At last newspaper stopped and gave her a dreamy moment. 

police murdered by police. 

Again

She took a deep breath. 

Modern society increase pressure by parents

 Modern society is very competitive culture. Parents have high expectation about their children performance, not only in academic achievement but also in social and commercial perspective. This pressure caused by some reason such as unemployment rate, culture and society. The high number unemployment in recent year made pressure to children to have good performance in school to be easy find job after graduate. 

Beside Living on culture and society that create performance based. The idea of good performance in school made easily get a job growing so far in parents. 

In spite of that, the pressure can be reduced by cooperation between parents. 

Talking about best friend

 Since we are young, many movies tell about bestfriend. From New york in Sex and the city until London in Harry Potter series, best friend told someone who share bad and good time in life. I still remember when i was younger, I dreamed about having a forever best friend who can sacrifice her/his life to saving me. Then i realize, noone can sacrifice their life for me despite my parents. I think and i am clearly sure, my momma and poop is the only one in this world who can sacrifice their life just for me. Even after i went to married and have a daughter, i really sure how parents can give their life just for their children. Maybe i just put my husband too. 

 I just believe, every mother want the best for their child. 

Please just dont blame every mom when they (when you think) failed. 

 i have plan to rewatch all harry potter series movies for this weekend. But, i just found Netflix doest have harry potter movies in there. LIKE WHY??!

My useless monday

 Today, i went to mall for extended my driver lisence. There much information told about easily extend driver lisence on jogja city mall. I was so happy because i can bring my baby and mom as babysitter with me. When i processed my driver lisence i hope they walking around mall.

But, 

I was asked to security mall and he clearly told me about police station stopped operation since outbreak pandemic. 

And 

I back home with nothing unless baby pyjamas and my mom pyjamas. 

☺☺☺☺☺

Baby Blues

 Do you ever hear about baby blues?

Many of us doesnt realize how important closest circle can heal baby blues syndrome. 

As a new mom, i never knew about baby blues. Although i dont feel mood swing or maybe feeling anxiety, i little bit understand what most caused baby blues and maybe post partum syndrome especially in our culture. 

As asian family, we know clearly how our parents never let us living alone and they will be around us until we have kids. Mostly indonesia newly weds living together with their parent with many reason. From homeless until responsibility to take care our parent in their olod age reason. And mostly (again) have little bit dispute with our parent. Maybe some dispute will be bigger when one side doesnt want to give in. Our parent thinking they live longger so they should have more knowledge. Their kids thinking they have more knowledge because they learn more with all technology and science. 

Baby blues needs support from closest relatives, means husband or family. But, It will be hard when mostly asian family still interve from many family decisions.  For the family who get interve from example their parent in law will make baby blues getting worst and maybe some cases will getting into postpartum sydrome. 

Indonesia, have a lot example cases such as baby diapers, breast milk, v section and sc section until vaccination. 

Let me tell you more about it, 

Baby diapers

In indonesia, baby diapers still made a debate between clody team or diapers team. 

Fyi, clody means washable baby diapers which using fabric and diapers mean disposable diapers. 

When many relatives from parents come home last months, they asked me "why i put on diapers to my baby" i already told them "because i have many guest today, i need to do many things and i cant watch her every second to change her clody" and one of them scold me and told me "Baby girls shouldnt use diapers everytime than boys, because it make them have bad foot shape"

and i dont know why, that night i cried a lot. Glad i have a supportive husband who calming me to avoid them. 

Breast milk 

Of course people know how good breast milk than formula. All asian old people know about that. But, how if mother cant give their baby breast milk because she cant not because she donot want to. 

I know some people cant give their babies breast milk because they just have a little breast milk and it is not enough for their babies. 

And much more...

And sometimes, if the newly mom listen much what peopl talk  and it always overwhelmed. It is tired and of course it much pressure on it. 

in my cases, i am very lucky to have a supportive husband who calming me down. If i dont have supportive husband, maybe i will be crazy mom... i will get postpartum sydrom because it is too much pressure from people around me. 

Officially mom

 After 3 months hiatus. 

Today *finally* I got my short time to open my blog just a few updates.

Here I am

Finally, I am officially a mom. yay!

My daughter was born in October 2021. A beautiful creature I ever have. 

So, wish me luck 😋💗